August 23, 2012
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Venting
I’m just venting.
There are five adults living in my house. Two of them are Roger’s sons. They don’t do jack shit around here and I’m getting tired of them freeloading.
In one year Roger lost his mom, his oldest son, his wife and his dad. He is afraid to make his kids ‘mad’ at him so he won’t do jack about this.
We bought a pool table and some regular bar-style cue sticks. We also bought ourselves nice sticks with cases. We keep them in cases under the bar. The other day I saw both of them standing up against the wall. I did not give anyone permission to use my stick.
I’ve only asked for one thing when someone plays pool. When they are done, they cover the table back up. Almost every time I look down in the basement the day after they have played, the table is uncovered. Maybe I need to just hide the freaking cue ball.
The other day I went down there and while the plastic cover WAS over the pool table, there was also a computer and computer parts on the table. That pissed me off.
We have a fairly new sofa and loveseat in the basement, in the area we set up with the TV and surround sound. The arms are all broken – both sides of both!
The other day I was sitting out on the deck. Three of my chairs are broken. (That’s four altogether – we repaired one.) From people leaning in them and putting all the weight on two legs. And I’m not talking about lightweight people either. One of his sons is around 300 pounds and the other is well over 200.
Sometimes I feel like selling this house and finding a place of my own. That’s what I thought I was getting when I bought this house.
Comments (4)
Ugh, I’m sorry. I’d be pissed as hell too. Hopefully Roger will get pissed enough to do something about it.. I feel for you. Seems like you’re the one making all the sacrifices here
If you can’t show respect for a parent then you’ll show no respect for anyone else either. I just read that the other day and thought of Zilla when I read it. I believe his sons fall into this same category. Have you talked to hubby about this breaking of stuff??? Crazy that you supply all the stuff and they just break it. Hugs….Marilyn
You have more patience than I have. I think I would have blown up a long time ago. Either that or I would just present them with a bill for the stuff that they’ve damaged. I’m guessing that wouldn’t go over well either.
Hugs. I hope that sometime you’re able to talk to Roger about this without him getting too defensive.
I don’t blame you for venting. I would definitely need to as well. I hope you get an opportunity to talk to Roger about it where he doesn’t become defensive. I can also understand his desire to not rock the boat either after everything his sons have been through in the past few years. Vent away! Like Tyche said, you are fair more patient that I would be.